This is the story of my daughter's first 3 month of life, a time when we the couple struggled to survive while she was all moreover subsumed by scientific technology. Part I describes an common and dangerous failures of relationship which meet the eye in busy hospitals. Part II describes the feelings of room for expectation that arose in me not from any improvement in my child's condition, yet from the ability of a hardly any people to step outside of technology and science and risk what the others could not- -authentic and caring engagement. fundamental note words: engagement in nursing, narrative, pediatric intensive
